Self-awareness is a super powerful skill to have but what happens when it turns into too much self-criticism?
“I am disgusting.” “I am a mess.” “I am a bad mom.” “I am a terrible friend.” “I am not good enough.” The list goes on.
I am guilty of this negative self-talk. When we look at these statements we say to ourselves, they are simply not true. For instance, “I am a bad mom.” We may have said something we regretted to our kids, missed an activity or performance, or chose ourselves over them. These mistakes are all part of parenting. We all have made plenty of mistakes in our lives but that doesn’t make us a bad person or mom. The reality is, most of us are good moms. The positive things we do greatly outweigh the bad and our sacrifices are countless.
I am learning to embrace my faults and work on these 5 things to catch this negative talk and turn it around.
- When I say something negative to myself, I stop and ask, is that statement completely true? Most of the time it is not.
- Letting go of perfectionism, realizing I have faults, and that makes me human.
- Look at my mistakes and decide how I can handle myself better next time.
- Ask if I would say that same statement to one of my friends. If I wouldn’t say it to them, I shouldn’t say it to myself.
- Finally, LET IT GO!
This will take time to create new thought patterns. Boosting our own self-esteem will make us more confident, nicer to ourselves, and as a result, nicer to others. We need to learn to LOVE ourselves before we can show that kind of love to those around us. Let’s not be our own worst enemy. We deserve better.